PUMPKIN SPICE EVERYTHING

 COFFEE PICIt’s FALL, y’all! Supposedly. I mean, it’s still a million degrees in my beloved hometown, but whatever. It’s my favorite time of year! I can’t even deal. I’m pretty much done with summer and showing the world my arms, so I’m just gonna move it right along. I love everything about Fall – pumpkin spice lattes, pumpkin spice teas, pumpkin spice candles, pumpkin spice breads, vegetables, body wash…you name it. Just kidding. Not really…but kinda (I draw the line at pumpkin spice deodorant). But let’s get real – everything is laced with pumpkin and spice.  If they made pumpkin spice markers, I would sniff them.  Look, I’m just gonna say it. If you don’t love Fall and everything that comes with it (college football), I question your salvation. I’m pretty sure heaven smells like Fall. And I’m pretty sure that when Hobby Lobby puts their Fall and Christmas décor out for the masses, I’m checking out of real life.

One thing I’m not looking forward to, however, is my annual coughing-up-a-lung bronchitis/sinus infection/walking pneumonia trifecta. Last year I hung onto that triple-threat with all my might for a solid six months. SIX (6). Six months of getting swabbed and poked and x-rayed and rubbing essential oils on my big toe and and barking like a dog in the middle of church. I for real bruised my ribs, you guys.  But seriously, there has got to be a better way to see if I have strep or the flu than to stick that giant needle-of-a-Qtip up my nose and down my throat.  Not only do they literally take a piece of my sinuses, but they take a piece of my dignity every single time. Forever traumatized.

And is that not the longest 5 seconds of your life??
Last time I had it done, I actually went home, took a nap, baked a cake and recovered from all my sickly conditions while they were still swabbing me. Like, draw a gallon of blood, cut off my fingernails, water-board me, anything but the swab. And at least YouTube that junk so we can make some money off of it. Somebody should at least reap the benefits of this heinous procedure. Like, please make sure you grab a shot of me gagging as I’m white-knuckling the arm of my seat. Don’t leave that out. If they would only make a pumpkin spice nasal spray maybe, just maybe, I could make it through my physical dysfunction without hating life.  (Get on that, somebody. It’s all you.)

Fingers crossed this year is different. I don’t know if I can handle it again. Sickness and single-mom-life mix like eggs and ketchup (some of y’all need to quit doing that). See, when I’m down, it all goes down. Am I right? The house goes down, the kids go down, the laundry goes down, my work goes down – pretty much everything but my weight goes down. I seem to hang onto that like it’s the last bite of a death row meal.  And who’s got the time? Not me.
Although, and here’s the silver lining – every time I’m down for the count,  I’m forced to take care of myself – something I’m learning to do a little more frequently these days. I don’t always succeed, but I’m learning that if I don’t take care of me, I’m no good to anybody else. And I’m talking mind, body and soul. If we are depleted and exhausted mentally, physically, and spiritually – what can we give? A whole lot of not-much. I should know. I’ve learned the hard way. I tried it…and I went down in a blaze of glory.

My learning season followed a three year stretch of straight-up survival mode. I separated from my husband, moved four times, went through a divorce, got a full-time job, continued to do my music and all the while raising my children. Before that, I even tried homeschooling for a year (key word – TRIED). I was always last on my list. And it’s hard to find time to dedicate to ourselves – especially guilt-free. We are innately taught that complete self-sacrifice at the expense of our own well-being is the way to go, but after the time I’ve gone through, I’m anything but convinced.

I know that God wants me to be my whole self – the person He has created me to be. I know that He has put me on this earth to love people and pour into others, especially my children. But how can I do that if I am neglecting my own mind, my own heart, body, soul and spirit? How can I pour out if I’m not being filled up? The answer is, I can’t.
Until I find my rest and wholeness in the One who made me, I’m no good to anybody. I have to find my rest, joy and peace in Jesus.
Sometimes I have to just stop the stress.  I have to turn up the music while I’m cooking dinner. I have to drop everything and play my instruments and write. I have to read. I have to spend time with the Lord.  I have to be silly and dance with my kids.  I have to sit down sometimes and watch My 600 Pound Life (I mean…Joyce Meyer) and eat a spoonfull of pumpkin spice cookie dough (I mean…carrots and ranch) while I’m doing it. I have to go to bed at 9:00 sometimes (old).  I have to get in my soaker tub and say, “I love you more than the air I breathe, but I’m going to need for you to not say my name for a hot minute.  Mommy is pretending she’s in Europe at a 5-Star Hotel. Ok? Brilliant! I’ll be with you in a bit.”

I also have to spend time with people who are good for my mental health. Friends. Family. We talk deep but we act stupid and we go out to lunch and shop and laugh and talk about Jesus and mistakes and fashion and design. They are life to me and they are necessary for my thriving. They are a part of my recharging and renewal.

We have to do things and be with people that help us rejuvenate.  What works for me may not work for you. You may not feel one bit better after a 45 minute (2 1/2 hour) bath. You may need to go for a run (for sure no). You may need to sleep or draw or bake or work on your car or ride your bike or stare at the walls. And like the T-shirt says, “Take the trip. Buy the shoes. Eat the cake.” Whatever your God-given means of rest and rejuvenation is, do it.
I’m committed in this new season of my life to being the best version of myself I can be (but I’m still gonna eat donuts sometimes). I’m dedicated to loving myself enough to regroup and slow down and find my center. I’m weak. I just cannot do it on my own. And neither can you. You’re not a superhero (sometimes you are). But God is the ultimate superhero, and even HE rested…

We need Jesus. We need Him to fill us up so we can keep going and giving. Sometimes we need to stop so we can go. Receive so we can give. I’m so grateful that when I’m a fragile piece-of-meltdown, He’s my strength and foundation. And I’m thanking Him today for His Word that empowers me to find my rest, joy and peace in Him. Nothing else offers it like Jesus (but my soaker tub is a really close second). 😉

58 thoughts on “PUMPKIN SPICE EVERYTHING”

  1. I’ve got the sinus crappiness genetics too girl. I’m sorry- I have tried the Neti pot and it helps, which could lead to an AMAZING blog post/video about neti pot and how that works. 🙄 It looks utterly ridiculous but works awesomeness.
    Anyway, I’ve found you via a million of my friends, I feel like we could be friends. I’m with you– as is everyone else I’ve seen your videos from. You’re amazing and speak a lot of how my brain thinks. Sweet!! Sending love from west Texas!

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    1. Sweet Heather, if you’re getting sick same time every year, it may be more than fall allergies. Home, office and school decorations and books especially books, can house the buggers that attack you like a whirlwind does fresh laundry on the clothesline. Virus enters the body through our noses…keep your hands clean and fingers put of the nose and noses. If you have children you understand the plural. Just a southern sister concerned. Love you sugar.

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  2. I get it. I’m in it. Our people can never fill us up like the Savior. I’ve spent the last 6 months thinking about this particular subject. I’ve tried to fill up with many things, and been disappointed. The only thing that comes through is Jesus. I love the honesty and humor in your writing and videos. Thanks for sharing. Would love to hear your tunes too…

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  3. My God, you are brilliant Heather!!!!! Keep them stories and anecdotes coming!!! You just made my day. I can go to sleep content in knowing that the Lord really provides everything I need. Key word: Need. Im so happy I found you….. It’s hysterical. And we all need to laugh!!!! 😆 Thank you!!!!!

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    1. I totally agree. I totally love it. Put laughter in my day. You get your point across that most people can’t say. Keep it coming.

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  4. I’m so glad I found you. I need someone in my (virtual) life to make videos that say out loud-exactly what I’m thinking. Once it’s out there, and out loud, it’s real. The distraction of being irritated about this small stuff that I sweat clears up once you ‘read my very thoughts’. I can then swap the irritation with a giggle and an exclamation of, “I KNOW, RIGHT?!”
    And now I’ve stumbled on your blog. I’m feeling nourished by your words (okay, maybe the pumpkin spice too). I like how you keep it simple whereas others who deliver the same messages, seemingly drip with so much honey that I can’t hear the message. Thank you for reminding me that I don’t have to be perfect and that’s okay.
    Fall is here in Duluth, MN. We had frost this morning and soon our temps will drop down to -20 to -50. Pumpkin spice will really hit the spot on those days. We learn to relish the actions of anything that warms us in the cold months. Sometimes not so much with the taste, but the coming together to enjoy warmth in community, friendship, camaraderie…. That, in turn, warms our souls and our spirits.

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  5. You’re awesome and I really needed this….needed to be reminded of ALOT of things. You are amazing and I’m thankful for the posts you make. Praying you stay well this season too.

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  6. Heather
    You give life back to me when I feel like I’m in this black hole. Thanking Jesus for giving you the humor to help us all heal.
    GOD BLESS

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  7. I’m going to leave suggestions, too. Order from Amazon: Mullein tea and Holy basil tea and Wild lettuce tea. Middle Tennessee was called the valley of death by the Cherokee because respiratory infections killed so many. It’s the perfect breeding ground for bacteria. I spent the last 4 years with this mess to the point that I developed COPD. But I bought some dang land out in Arizona and some day I’m going to live out there and have dry lungs!! For now I use the teas I mentioned.
    I adore you, btw!

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  8. Why are we so hard on ourselves? No one likes a martyr and that’s seriously what I ve been during this last season of my life. I thank you for your humor, wisdom and permission to invest in ourselves as a form of loving others. Thank you and bless your heart!

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  9. You make me laugh every day so I’m going to return the favor and tell you to look into Young Living Essential Oils…they are AMAZING all natural miracles in a bottle to help support all systems of the body…I work in an elementary school and last year was the first year I did not get sick…not even one day…because of Thieves, Lemon Lavender, Peppermint, and a few other goodies…their website is loaded with information and check out Pinterest too…I must stress that I will only recommend this Company…nobody else out there is comparable!…they have a Seed to Seal promise, meaning they have complete control over what goes in the bottle from the time it’s planted, raised, harvested, distilled and bottled…100% pure oils. Feel free to reach out if you have any questions! Thanks fir making me smile!

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  10. I’m so glad I came across your videos on the Facebook! They absolutely crack me up and just make my day! I very much like reading your blogs as well…I can sooo relate! You put into words what so many others are also thinking and feeling. Thank you for sharing your gifts and talents – please keep those videos coming. I’m a Georgia girl transplanted in Ohio for the last umpteen years and your accent and sayings on those videos make me feel closer to home somehow and I just love them! I’m fixin to watch em again! Thank you! Karen in OH

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  11. Thank you for being a light in this often dreary & occasionally overwhelming single Mama world. You speak the truth on so many levels & provide a wonderful example of God’s amazing love for us.

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  12. You are a breath of fresh air! Funny and honest. But also, so open and transparent. Thank you for sharing your heart. I needed that today. As a mom of 4 (3 teenage girls and 1 pre-teen boy) with a traveling husband, a house to run and stuff to keep up with, I find myself worn out. And it’s nice to be reminded that it’s ok to take time for myself. Be blessed…

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  13. Love seeing you on Facebook!! You speak for so many people, who feel like you do. God is good, and he directs our lives, if we seek and trust him-he is allowing you to show his love for us through humour.

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  14. I had the 6 month death kneel , yearly, for about 20+ years! Finally went to ENT DR. Had sinus surgery. PRAISE THE LORD! and Dr Jenkins! I still have minor nose blowing BUT haven’t coughed up a lunge in 4 years!!!

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  15. Heather,
    You are such an inspiration. Love reading your blog and especially laughing hysterically at your videos. I too went through a divorce and got through it because of Jesus. I have hung onto many of His words. It’s a journey, and having laughter in those (snot filled cries) saves my soul. So thank you for being real and sharing you life experiences. I wish you joy in your heart and peace in your soul. Now go girl, keep them laughing. And especially Be-U-tiful.

    Wendy

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  16. You will never know how close to home this hit! I’m 65 and still have 2 young men (our 21 year old and our 17 year old) at home. Homeschooling a high school senior is challenging for sure, but he’s doing great. Your love for all things pumpkin spice is so relateable! I was in your shoes many years ago with my now 38 year old son. You’ll get through it all with our Lord’s help. God gifted me with my 2nd husband 30 years ago…what a wonderful God we serve!

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  17. Heather, this is beautiful! I appreciate your authenticity, humor and encouragement. My goodness, our learning years are very often daily (hourly) survival, yet God carries us, strengthens us, provides for us and His promises and love transform us. Praying God’s Abundant blessings and protection over you and your family!

    On a side note, I experienced the pure joy and laughter from watching my first “I Ain’t Doing It” video last night! Laughed for well over an hour b/c I had to watch the next one and the next one and the next one. Just thinking about the Chain Letter and Prayer Chain videos right now make me laugh 😂.

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  18. My very closest friends and I just went on a girl trip for the weekend. We try to do it every year. We listened to all your videos on the way home and laughed ourselves silly. This is the first blog of yours that I’ve had the opportunity to read. I really enjoyed it. Keep on keeping on. You may want to be tested for allergies and go on a daily allergy med during the Fall season, or get allergy shots. Just a suggestion.
    With Love,
    Another Half-Crazy-Jesus-Lovin’-Momma.

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  19. Adorable. Inspiring. Speaking to
    Me. Wow. I feel the same way. The best me I can be. Breast cancer took my precious me. Now I’m committed to me this new and I think improved me. Thank you for your words.

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  20. Reading this with my 3-wick fall candle burning, while watching fall movies (I didn’t even know those were a thing!?) on Hallmark Channel, and looking forward to the pint of pumpkin pie Halo Top that’s in the freezer. Yay, fall! And self-care. 🙂

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  21. I love reading your posts. You speak the way I think. (Scary) Thank you for making me chuckle and feel blessed at the same time.

    Much love and appreciation 💗

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  22. My story is so similar! Separation, divorce, self-neglect trying to take care of everyone else’s needs and then coming full circle to recognize that if I don’t take care of me, I have absolutely nothing to give. Thank goodness for Jesus’ love and grace…..and pumpkin spice everything!!

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  23. Heather, the first time I saw one of your I ain’t doing it videos, I thought you were one of my daughter’s friends! Today on my way home from church I stumbled across this blog; I laughed so hard, and I agree with you that Jesus is our strength and foundation.
    And…..I had the strep swab as well! It’s awful!! And to use your words, if the doctor says I need another one, I AIN’T DOIN IT!”
    Love your videos and blog. ❤️

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  24. We had our annual Ladies Retreat and we were showing your videos to all the ladies that hadn’t seen one, and at every possible chance someone was saying “I ain’t doin it”. Love your videos. You have no idea how many ladies in America are laughing because of you. Don’t ever stop!!!!!

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  25. My fall allergies are the worse. I use Theives oil in a diffuser throughout fall and winter. It is supposed to booster immunity and I think it helps plus it smells like cloves which is a good fall smell.

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    1. Yes, I so agree with you! I use this oil (well, a differently-named brand) with coconut oil on my feet at night (I don’t have a diffuser yet) when I get the slightest feeling of that stuff coming on. Previously I would get bronchitis on average every year and a half, but I haven’t in a long time. I don’t have any science to back it up, but I definitely recommend it to anyone who has this issue!

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  26. Oh my!! Oh Lordy!!! I have not laughed this hard in a L-O-N-G time. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Once I wiped the tears from my eyes from laughing so hard, I read a few of your blogs and found I needed them too. It’s so amazing how God can work thru some of the silliest things to get a message across. Thank you for doing what ya do & letting God use ya!❤😉😎

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  27. I am loving your blog!! And the videos seriously are hysterical! Ok. The sinus thing. Here’s my sister to sister advice. Go to http://www.allstarhealth.com and order Source Naturals Wellness Formula. And take it everyday. Do yourself a favor and don’t smell it when you open it. Ha. Just take that tablet and some water and buckle up for a sickness free season. You go girl!!

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  28. Heather Land! My thirteen year old and I look forward to your posts and/or videos daily! She asks me, what’s Heather up to? I love that you are clean, funny and relevant and have a heart for Christ. We are all weathering some sort of storm & I admire your humility mixed with hilarity! Thanks for your raw and honest posts, ma’am. And I feel ya with the humidity…just remember, it makes your skin moist & youthful in the long-run! Lol I tell myself that, anyway!

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  29. I read your blog for the first time… all the way over here in Germany. You came to my attention through friends who liked your hilarious videos… gave me good laughs when I really needed them… I find you even more inspiring in writing… a single mom about to reset my life and the life of my children… wondering something how I will get it all done… mind over matter… greetings from Kerken Germany

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  30. Girl, you are speaking some words to me right now!
    I’m sitting here surrounded in tissues, cough medicine, and my butt hurts from the shot of steroids they just gave me two hours ago. This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right as I was stressing about how the laundry would get done, how behind I am at work, and supper sure as heck doesn’t fix itself. I absolutely adore your take on life, and really relate to you like so many others! Keep it going, girl!

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  31. “Sometimes we need to stop so we can go. Receive so we can give.” Yep. Well said. Thank you, Heather. And God’s mercy with that upper respiratory stuff! Have you tried eating pumpkin spice? 😉

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  32. Heather, in this world of chaos and dread I have begun feeling like I live in Gotham City. The gray/black setting, the gloom, violence, and death. The only super heroes I see these days are those EMS, LE, soldiers, hospital staff, and people like you. I have turned to watching your short clips just so I can laugh. Keep up the great work. I truly believe there is healing with laughter. Hopefully, people will start turning their anger and hurtful ways to your clips and others that make them laugh. Then maybe my Gothem will disappear and my world will be cupcakes and rainbows. U r amazing and have a gift, continue ur mission.

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  33. Thank you for this post. It really has inspired me and made me laugh. I’m really having to work on taking care of my mind body and soul (self compassion). I know God has a plan for me and I keep leaning on him but sometimes I feel alone in this world. This blog made me see that I am not only not alone but have like minded people out there I can pray for too.

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  34. Heather: love your spirit & transparency! From a lot of personal experience, your trifecta illnesses could be solved very easily. Eliminate ALL dairy products from your diet. I don’t know how much you love yogurt or cheese, etc, but it does us humans no good! Almond milk, rice milk, etc is fine, but just not the stuff that comes from cows. Hope this helps! Keep being you & being guided by Our Lord ❤️

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  35. Heather, you ROCK! I have found so much laughter in your short videos! My son is in the military (I am that MoM…Mother of a Marine) & he will be deployed at the first of the year. Some days do get me down but I can watch your videos & I laugh so hard & forget my worries if only for a short time. Your “I’d rather” just cracks me up! (My favorite ones are “wheelbarrow full of fireants” & “walk a mud hole dry on my backside”)! I too love the Fall & pumpkins & I think how wonderful it is that our Lord has given us such beauty! And I am so grateful to Him that one of my new favorite people now is YOU! I promise…I am not a stalker! God bless!

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  36. My favorite thing you wrote! Well, actually, I have many favorite things you write! But I really love this one>>>>”We need Jesus. We need Him to fill us up so we can keep going and giving. Sometimes we need to stop so we can go.”

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  37. Oh, thank you for your words and encouragement! Much needed! Also a recent single mom struggling with a new life.
    Love your aint gonna do it!

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  38. Oh Heather I found your blog through your funny videos on YouTube but honestly girl, I like the blog way more! Jesus and Pumpkin lattes all the way sister ! (Are you sure we aren’t twins? Just sayin…). Thank you for making me laugh, cry and fall in love with Jesus all over again. You rock!

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  39. I used to get the bronchitis thing every year. Then we moved to Florida for 18 months where we did not have a wood burning fireplace and I did not have it. When we came back to Texas we bought gas logs. I have only had it twice in 20 years. Just a thought.

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