The good ole’ New Year’s Resolution – or as I like to call it, The List of Good Intentions. You know, those things we say we’re gonna do but usually don’t. Oh stop! You know you do it – “commitment” with no follow-through. Yes, there are those chosen few who actually say they will and they do. To you sir, ma’am, my hat’s off. Your word was your bond. You’re the unsung hero. The champion. The victor. You made it.
EYE OF THE TIGER – they’re playing’ your song, Rocky.
But for the rest of us… Why do we even bother? Hey, don’t beat yourself up. For years, I secretly promised myself to lose 20 pounds. Somewhere around pound 10 (or sometimes day 10) and a six count of Krispy Kreme I would give up and give in. My will for sugar usually wins out over that size-down in jeans. Then….oh, brother. Here is comes. Self-deprication for the remaining balance of the calendar year. As if January 1st is the magic number.
Here’s the bottom line – If we wanted to do it, we would – no matter the month or the year.
Because of my history of failure regarding this subject and specific day of the year, New Year’s resolutions aren’t something I normally commit to and most certainly don’t hinge the success of my future on. When I get ready to lose the weight or do the thing, I always do. However, ironically enough, I find myself entering this new year with much resolve. Courses of action have been taken.
Resolution.
Resolve.
This past year has been one of great change. Growth. This seems to be a pattern in all of life. Make it stop. Or wait! Don’t, actually. If things weren’t constantly changing I would be forever bored with life. Wouldn’t you?
Many of the past year’s changes have been positive and exciting, the evolution of situations that have come to fruition. Things I never saw coming – like this one time I said this one thing ( I Ain’t Doin It) and now I have a new life. Kinda like that.
Other changes have been disheartening, disappointing. Some changes, my own choosing. Other changes, not so much. Relationships ended, hearts divided, sides taken, judgment, misunderstanding, loss… Resolve in it’s own right. Much of the unwelcomed resolve has shaken me to my core and caused me to reevaluate many things that I thought I knew. Resolve that has caused me to have to make my own hard decisions. It’s been a painful growth. This year has also posed many questions that only I could answer.
Who am I?
What do I believe?
Where can I give and bend?
Where can I compromise?
Where can I not?
Will I fold….quit?
What have I done?
What have I not?
What can I change?
What can I not?
Some of the answers to these questions are still being decided. Some are crystal clear. Either way, there has been growth.
Growth – Definition: Full development; maturity. Evolution.
In mistakes – growth. In hurt and loss – growth. In happiness and excitement – growth.
Wouldn’t it be great every now and then if life could just for five minutes be perfect – for everything to “be the way it used to be”?
But…evolution, growth, resolve.
I am learning that the circumstances around me don’t have to be perfect and wonderful for growth to occur. Growth is no respecter of persons. If I continue for the next five years to buy my 14 year year old a size 14 in clothes, does that stunt his growth? Does he stay the same size 14 because his mom refuses to alter accordingly? Hardly. After a good year his jeans that once fit will be skin–tight highwaters in fulleffect. (Also, he would hate me). Growth is going to happen whether we like it or not.
In all things, in hard situations, I am continuing to grow – growing as a mother, a friend, a comedian (when did I even become this?!?), a musician, a writer, a lover of Jesus. I am forever trying to learn to love better, apologize more, judge less, even though so often I miss the mark.
This year I resolve to embrace the horrible, wonderful process called growth, because it’s coming whether I like it or not. I resolve to not be so easily swayed by disappointment from others or by my own failures, to stand for what is right and know when to bow out gracefully, to submit but never compromise, to speak up more often and know when to say less, to give grace and accept it, to love better, to stay the course and to listen to the beautiful voice of the Lord who wants me close to Him – that voice that is and should always be my ultimate resolve.
The world will always try to dictate who we should be, but I am resolved that only God will decide that for my life. My prayer is that He continues to lead and guide and speak (to that thing in me that wants the sugar and that I will listen).
This is my New Year’s Resolution.
If you are trying to quit Krispy Kreme or your job or quit smoking menthols, or you are vowing to go skydiving or take that trip – Godspeed. You can do it. If you don’t quite hit your mark, well… I promise to be here to help dust you off and keep you moving. I promise to help those around me embrace their growth. We’re in this together.
Resolve.
HEATHER LAND 
So needed this❤
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So many of your words in this really hit home for me. It’s like you were describing my last year, so I can totally relate. You are such a jewel. I look forward everyday to a new video being posted. You are amazing and hysterical!!!! Thank you so much for your videos, and Happy New Year to you and your loved ones!!!!!!!!
With love,
Mitzi in Houston, Texas
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You are important.
You are smart.
You are funny.
You are kind.
You are entertaining.
Thank you.
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Umm your pretty amazing!! I’ve been following you for a few months now and love love your videos! But this takes the cake!! Thank you for sharing your heart! Can’t wait for the laughs in 2018!! 🎉
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You are one of THE MOST amazing and valuable voices out in the world of dark days and long nights for many. I’ve asked many of the same questions you have. I’ve realized if I don’t live for the praises of people, I won’t die by their criticism. To stand for love, for freedom, for His loving Grace and Mercy, and for His ability when I’ve none, is what defines part of my life. I’m leanring to give without expectation and love unconditionally. I NEED to LAUGH more and love more and LAUGH LAUGH LAUGH so much more….and you make me SMILE and LAUGH!! Youre a gift from God. Keep doing what youre doing, if you can. I woke this morning and the Lord said, “I Am limitless!” I sat and wrote this! “You Are the LIMITLESS God, the God of Wonders and a God of Thunder. With one touch of Your Hand, You bring restraint to lawlessness, and freedom to those shackled by fear. Lord, You know no bounds, for You created the endless seas, and our infinite universe. We recognize You Lord, in the heavens above, where wars rage and battles are won. We “Stand” in awe of Your invisible victories, ones that our eyes cannot see. We are able to “Stand” triumphant, for You let us know, You’re fighting for us. We “Stand” confident, because You sent Your Word, it became flesh and He daily dwells among us. As we enter into Your Presence, we feel confident determination, because Your Word gives an invitation to “Stand,” and see the deliverance of our God.” We shall not be moved, from our place next to You, for we are positioned, steadfast and immovable, on the Rock of our Salvation. As we lean into Your Right side, we feel the firm, strong Arm of Your Mighty Power! Even in the darkest of days, You’ve set a place for us in the presence of our enemies, and watch You crush the plans of our adversary!! Grateful we come, and thankful we remain, for we are hemmed in and protected on EVERY side! May You find us, Your children, “Standing,” and not fighting battles that are not ours! Let us be strengthen in our resolve to step forth, into greater places we hear You summon us to. You signal the way, as You forge ahead, declaring, “This is the way My beloved children, walk in it, and make your unwavering STAND! There will be REST, when you understand, the battle is Mine, the victory is already yours!”☝️🏽🙏
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Thank you. …. THANK YOU for this. BRB while I go cry my eyes out.
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Always insightful and surprisingly eloquent. Putting words to the emotions of so many of us. I have a girl crush (not in that way 😉
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These words hit the mark with me! I quit doing the resolutions because I wouldn’t see them through. I then enter the “I suck” bandwagon, and ride it for a week (who are we kidding a 6 month deployment)! Growth is a perfect way to look at all things! God Bless you & your family in not only this year but the years to come!
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Well said ! I wish I could express my feelings that well. You have helped me thru some tough days, esp your videos ! Always seem to pop up when my heart needs a smile ! Just wanted to say Thank you. Looking forward to many more smiles ! God Bless ! Karen…..South Carolina
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Very inspiring after a very tough day! Thank you and I love watching your videos! God Bless!
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Thanks for this! Very insightful and thought provoking. I so enjoy your blog and your videos! Always hilarious and entertaining 😂 God Bless and here’s to another year of growth in 2018!!
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While change is difficult, it’s not impossible. I gave up the menthols some time back and that was the best thing I could ever do for myself! I recently said out loud in the office I was going to stay out of coworkers candy dish when another coworker said you can’t. That was the best motivation ever to someone tell me I couldn’t do it! I’ve made the decision to be “sweet smart” if it’s homemade (I don’t bake so the opportunities are small) I could treat myself. Candy just to have candy I’m done. It’s been a month since I’ve had something from that candy bowl at work and this kid has a sweet tooth! Make up your mind and give it your best. Happy 2018 everyone!!
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I truly didn’t think I could appreciate your humor anymore then I do in your I’m not doing it videos. Then you surprise me by writing such an insightful piece about growth.
Let me know when you need lifting up and dusting off. I will break out the Hoover.
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Oh, how I loved reading this! Started out I was only going to read a few lines but I couldn’t stop reading. Thank you for writing the thoughts, hopes, dreams, wishes and making them mine. You are a delight and refreshing breath. God bless!
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I could not have said it any better myself. I get so much joy out of your humor. Thank you for these important thoughts and reflections. They hit the nail right on the head for me. Happy New Year!
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You are always truthful and insightful. Your words make me laugh, reflect, and hopeful. Thank you for always keeping it real and sharing so we don’t feel like we are alone on this island called “life”.
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Wonderful insight! Thank you for this, for being real and keeping it real! Praying for you!
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Thank you…
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I do believe you’ve hit the mark with Krispy Kremes & Menthols. People ask what my New Year’s resolution is and I get tired of saying to lose weight. But, I really, really mean it this time. I’ve really, really meant it hundreds of times. No, seriously this is it. I’m going to do it this time. (Sigh) I love reading your blog and watching your videos. You always keep it real. I wish you continued success. God Bless You !!
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Thank you Heather for sharing, there’s a lot of wisdom in what you said.God bless you in 2018, from the Fathers heart to your heart to mine❣
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You are so funny and on point thank you
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Thank you for sharing, just love your sense of humor and most of all your love for the Lord. Let Him lead you on and you will be blessed. Thanks for sharing.
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Very well said…… Amen sista 🎉👏🏻
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Having been through a whole lot of painful “growth” in my own life, I totally can relate to all of this! Well said!!
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Beautifully written.
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I always thought, as a younger Christan, I would hit this plateau. A place we’re I could be comfortable. Isn’t that just the way our carnal mind works. I’m attending a church now that encourages stretching and growth, yet I’m receiving self guilt and listening to the enemy that I may not be doing the right thing. Living like I’m loved is my resolve and intentions are high priority
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Heather,
Thank you for this piece. It has touched me and is right on. I have enjoyed your” I aint doin it” all year! Kuddos to you for expressing so many like emotions in the funniest way possible! I am kind of our family funny lady. I have been known to leave funny messages on my brother and sisters’ answering machines. There I am dating myself, not many people still have those! Anyway, charge on with your funny self! May you and your family have a blessed New Year!
In him, Laura.
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Love it when I see your post pop up! Girl, you keeping it real and spot on! Best wishes for you in the coming new year! God Bless!
Dawn
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Your writing is very good, easy to understand and full of wisdom. However I still would prefer your video clips. Keep up the good work, my whole family love your stuff.
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Keep on keeping on, girl! You are a ray of sunshine and humor to so many of us! Glad you’re “Doin’ It”
Happy New Year!
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Love it!
You’ve got me thinking, and I appreciate that! Thank you for reminding me that ultimately, it’s God, not me!
Happy New Year 😘
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What a great post, Heather–so honest, insightful, and poignant. Thanks for sharing this blog post as we come to the end of 2017. My resolve is to finally give up the Menthols–it’s time. Wish me luck! Happy New Year to you and your family! P.S. Your I Ain’t Doin It videos make my day!
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Could I be removed from all future mailings please. I have clicked the unsubscribe link numerous times, but that just takes me to wordpress and I don’t have a wordpress account so I cannot get passed this stage. I love Heather but do get all her news via facebook and no longer wish to receive these emails. Thanks, Amanda
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I love your open and honest approach to life. Give up? I ain’t doin it. Happy new year!
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I love people who are REAL. I think when we constantly question ourselves, we’re probably farther along in the journey to who we want to be than we think we are. Great post.
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You bring much laughter into my daily life, please do not stop the ” I AIN”T DOIN IT” videos !! THEY MAKE MY DAY !!!
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You have a wonderful gift both in humor and philosophy. I’m so glad I am following you. This essay, or whatever you may call it, is beautiful and great advice. Enjoy all of the new year
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You are the sunshine for a lot of people… we live in such a dark & gloomy world but keep speaking Jesus in all we do will spread the light over & over!!! Thank you for just being yourself & letting God show thru you!! The best is yet to come my friend! God bless you!!! Happy 2018!!
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You hit the mark! Thanks for bringing a smile to my face and laughter in my heart. ❤
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I needed this today! Thank you for sharing this message!
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We’ll aid and spoken from the heart of not only you but so many of us in this world! 2018 can and will be a year for growth, resolve and resolution. Hope you accomplish all you set out to do! Happy New Year!
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Love it that you say exactly what most of us are thinking and feeling. You keep it real. That’s the part of you that relates to the rest of us. That’s why you’re now a comedian. You said the things we were all thinking but never said and we love the realness of it. And we laughed and kept laughing. And you write the things we are thinking. And we keep reading. We love you. 😊
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Wow, I was ready for this to be funny…and parts of it were. This was so well written and heart felt! The end of the old year/beginning of the new year is a time we traditionally take stock of our lives and set our goals. My take away from this is that we all just need to always try ro be a better person and when we don’t quite reach that, pick up and move on, and try again the next day! Thanks Heather and happy new year!
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I love your blogs and your videos. You can always make me smile. Your words could not be more true. Thank you for making me laugh out loud 😂
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Calmly writing the bottled fustrations and questions of so many… youre my hero… if you lived close I would totally be the driver in our get away situation to and from the scene of the crime – Krispy Kreme nonrobbery…. lol. Thank you for being the humor for the dating single mom and the voice of ridiculous moments in Walmart. If you werent then I may be writing a penpal from a locked location after losing my sh** on someone in public.. lol. Thank you and march on sista…
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I love reading your blogs and watching your “ain’t doin’ it videos”! I’m 45 and the Holy Spirit swept me off my feet back in April and I got baptized in September! Amazing year! I can’t wait to see what the Lord has in store for me for 2018! Have a Happy New Year! ❤️ Your sister in Christ.
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Thank you for your beautiful words…love ya sister Heather!
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Wonderful words of wisdom. Thanks for being a real person.
Your videos brighten our days and help to take our focus off of our issues,,if even for a few min. Keep them coming.
Paula
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I love your post & “I Ain’t Doing It!” You “give me life” when I really need a laugh!🤣
When my husband & I are driving we are constantly saying, “sir/man ~ you give me life!” And then we are LOL 🤣😂
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“The world will always try to dictate who we should be, but I am resolved that only God will decide that for my life. My prayer is that He continues to lead and guide and speak (to that thing in me that wants the sugar and that I will listen).”
Amen sister!
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Your videos of “I ain’t doing it” have been a wonderful addition to my day. You never fail to say exactly what we are all thinking. I have laughed so hard until I had tears running down my face. Please, please don’t ever stop making them. And loving your blogs too as your humor comes thru here too. God bless you and your family!!!!!! We love you!!!!!
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